2 John 5 NKJV- And now I plead with you, lady, not as though I wrote a new commandment to you, that which we have had from the beginning: that we love another
Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times
We must learn the beauty in consistency. The truth is, we know when God has placed someone in our lives. If we are unsure, it is our job to seek God to reveal who is in what position in our lives. TD Jakes summarized it into 3 categories of friends: (video only 10 minutes)
Today I want to focus on the role of a confidant.
Point 1: You’re not their confidant until after you’ve seen them naked!
Now you may be wondering why I used that term, but by that I meant to be are, vulnerable and transparent. You have to trust that in their ugliest moment, you still see the beauty of who God has called them to be! We must love them at ALL times. As TD Jakes mentioned if you find 3 in your lifetime, you’ve done well so honor those who you can call a confidant. They are God sent and few and far between.
The 3 Roles of a Confidant:
Luke 1:39-56 (NIV)39
At that time Mary got ready and hurried to a town in the hill country of Judea, 40 where she entered Zechariah’s home and greeted Elizabeth.41 When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the baby leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit. 42 In a loud voice she exclaimed: “Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the child you will bear! 43 But why am I so favored, that the mother of my Lord should come to me? 44 As soon as the sound of your greeting reached my ears, the baby in my womb leaped for joy. 45 Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!”
- As a confidant, we should make our friend’s barren womb LEAP. That means everything that they thought was dead, couldn’t come to pass and dreams they have yet to see fulfilled should come alive by your presence and encouragement
John 15:15 (NLT)
I no longer call you slaves, because a master doesn't confide in his slaves. Now you are my friends, since I have told you everything the Father told me
- Confidants should not be afraid to open up and confide in one another. If Jesus can confide in us, we NEED to confide in those who God sent.
Brothers, if someone is caught in a trespass, you who are spiritual should restore him with a spirit of gentleness. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. 2 Carry one another’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the Law of Christ.
- Even if our friends are making decisions we don’t agree with, it is our job to HELP them. When we know they’re God sent, yet going through a tough time, don’t give up! You’re now on DOUBLE DUTY. Cover them, and cover yourself as well so you can make sure your being their cover in that moment, not their partner
**Discussion: Name one or more of these areas that you need work in with your friendships. If at this point in your life you do not have or are not sure if you have a confidant, pray about it tonight and asked God to bring them into your life or to show you who they are
**Tonight, lets pray for our connections and our “heart ties”